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Stepping Into Your Power
Do have difficulty with feeling powerful in your life? Do you find it hard to step into your self-confidence? Do you ever experience self-doubt?
If the answer is yes to any of these, you are not alone. Most people, in fact almost everyone, experiences some form of these things. I know I have and still do experience these things myself, sometimes even on a daily basis.
There are lots of ways to deal with this though there is no way I could even begin to cover the full gambit of strategies and tools that are available to assist. What I will do though is share a few key thoughts and strategies that currently assist me to step into my power.
I want to start by sharing a thought that I have that assists me, a mantra so to speak. I like to say to myself:
“My personal power is always present, and I am currently just in a state of mind where I am not recognising it.”
Saying this to myself helps me shift my thinking and reminds me that I do not have to remain static. To me, this is like how I think about love. The love I have for my wife, my family, my friends and so on, it is always there, but sometimes other thoughts and emotions get in the way. So, like love, when I remember the innate power that exists within me, I can start to shift and move back towards it. At the same time, I also engage in using some practical tools to help me move into my personal power.
I like to call these practical tools, my three Ps of personal power:
Well, this is old school but true nonetheless. When I feel I am doing something where I lack confidence I need to remember to practise. Practise pays off, we all know this so enough said.
The next thing is to remember to be patient with myself. To be honest, sometimes this is a struggle. Self-talk can make my head go around and around, and I can easily get frustrated with myself. Remembering to be patient and forgiving with myself helps me remember that sometimes it is just my own thoughts getting in the way.
The next thing is engaging in perseverance. Sometimes the lack of confidence requires being doggedly persistent with going back to what needs to be done. At times I just need to invoke my resilience and persevere through those things that I feel uncomfortable doing. This will sometimes go hand in hand with the practise.
I used these three P’s when I was learning to be a public speaker. When I started doing public speaking, it was very daunting. I needed to be patient with myself while also persevering through my inhibitions so that I could practice. Doing these three things did help me to gain confidence in my public speaking.
Your personal power is your power and no one else’s.
Remember that as you learn to be more comfortable with your confidence and break through your barriers of self-doubt your personal power will increase. Personal power is about you, it is not about controlling others, or about getting approval from others, in fact, it has nothing to do with others. It is about embracing your own personal journey and discovering your own self-worth and self-love and then stepping into those things and embracing them for yourself.
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