What Does Your Inner Voice Say to You?


What Does Your Inner Voice Say to You?

gail rogers

Oh my goodness! Another deadline for a Smallville article tonight and I’ve got nothing interesting to write about! All the other Contributors have it under their belt, writing with ease several fabulous articles of a very high standard way ahead of the due dates – I’ll never be as good as them.

So why did I get chosen to be a part of this elite group – what were Andrew, Bree and Carla thinking? Surely they regret their crazy impulsive decision?  One day very soon someone is going to find out that I’m a fake and they’re going to tell the world.

Never before have I felt the need to share with anyone outside my circle of close friends, my constant battle between my positive external voice filled with words of endearment and encouragement and my negative self-doubting fearful inner voice which rages before, during and after writing an article for fellow Small Business peeps.

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Sharing personal stories in such a public platform takes courage as it leaves us wide open to feedback and it’s the criticism which sticks like glue in our minds, hearts and souls. My secret excuse is that as an only child with two hard-working dedicated loving parents, I established this behavior pattern at a very young age when at home alone.

An expert once described our inner voices as…

being very important to our sense of self” which has a powerful influence over our cognitive thought processes especially when judging ourselves.  This voice facilitates our higher level skills of self awareness, evaluation, reflection, constructive criticism, problem-solving and encouragement particularly in reference to our outer appearance, behaviors and achievements. 

It competes ferociously with our external voice for example, when we talk to ourselves out loud solving the problems of our day, reflecting upon the outcome of a business phone call, encouraging ourselves before an important negotiation and analysing our performance after a public speaking engagement.   

This expert also stated with conviction that…

people who talk to themselves out aloud score higher on measures of self-awareness and self-evaluation.  

I can certainly confirm his belief as I’ve always talked to myself because there was no-one to snap-chat back!

Consider your absolute favourite role model … are you aware that they too experience the euphoria of positive external self-talk and the despondency of negative inner self-criticism?

You will be relieved to know that the theory of neuroplasticity can guide you to find a way to overcome and conquer this endless battle, for example this may involve doing things differently on a daily basis to have an impact upon how our brain thinks, feels, speaks and reacts.  Hallelujah! We have the opportunity to change the way our brain works.

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So what can we do to change the way our Inner Voice communicates? Here are 6 quick take-home points you can try out today:

  1. Start to change the dialogue of your inner voice by verbalising positive words of endearment every evening before bed and in the morning before your feet hit the ground.
  2. Watch video’s and listen to podcasts by positive inspirational speakers such as Andrew Griffiths and his tribe of Smallville Contributors. Take notes and repeat their positive phrases of self-encouragement throughout the day especially whilst driving your car in between appointments.
  3. Learn to stand on your head to allow your blood filled with positive endorphin chemicals to flow to your brain before a public speaking engagement.
  4. Gather a group of like-minded people who talk about deep and meaningful topics such as your inner voice over a cup of coffee or glass of wine.
  5. Read, read and read affirmative enlightening articles, blogs and books written by our informative Smallville Contributors.
  6. Before a Small Business meeting, presentation or media interview:
    • – Practice diaphragmatic breathing exercises to allow your brain to breathe and to be oxygenised which will allow positive thoughts to flow
    • – Warm up your external voice with some simple vocal warm up exercises
    • – Repeat a positive mantra out aloud over and over as you walk to the meeting locations
    • – Have a double-shot coffee from your favourite local barista

My next challenge is to help you change the way your partner thinks and talks to you. Maybe forward them this article?

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