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Hitting Rock Bottom – and Getting Back Up
So if you’ve been reading my articles over the last couple of months, you’ll know I had an accident and broke my ankle. And surprisingly, although it was definitely unplanned, things were going ok, until they weren’t.
We are a 100% self-employed family, relying fairly heavily on both of us to run our group of businesses. Adding to that, I had another large project with a looming deadline that I was committed to making happen. And kids!
My bedroom became a war room, boardroom, and office for two months while I remained immobilised. Until two weeks ago when I started walking. A few days later we launched the project. This week I started driving. And today … I fell hard.
I hit rock bottom. Tired, unmotivated and so, so cranky I just couldn’t do it anymore.
In life, we all have bad days. Bad weeks. Even bad months! And in business, it’s no different. Being self-employed can be a lonely place, even when you’re surrounded by staff. Not many people understand this life. A life where it’s not uncommon to be overworked, underpaid and just plain burnt out.
Be very careful!
Because here’s the danger. Left unchecked, a bad few days, weeks or months can very quickly become a very bad attitude. That bad attitude only serves to further impact your life and your business in very negative ways. And negativity feeds on itself and infects everyone around you.
Luckily for me, I’ve been here before. I’ve been exhausted, broke and broken.
But I’ve found a way to get back up.
So here I go again, working my way through these five steps and picking myself up off the floor:
1. Taking accountability.
Right, the only person in control of my life is me. Full stop.
Stop blaming other people for what’s going wrong. No more playing the victim. Pick yourself up off the floor and take a good honest look at what’s going on around you. What happened to get you here, and what changes can you make in the future to stop it happening again.
2. Forgive yourself.
I have high expectations, and nobody is harder on me than me. But I’ve had to learn how to let myself off the hook from time to time.
Mistakes get made, and things go wrong, that’s just life. What matters most is how you recover and handle yourself and your business after the fact.
3. Remove negative influences.
They don’t say misery loves company for nothing! If you find yourself slipping into a negative frame of mind, take a look at who you have around you. Are they propping you up or keeping you down?
If I’m spending more time complaining to my friends about what’s going wrong, than getting excited about what’s going right … I’m in the wrong place.
The act alone of deliberately thinking about things that you are grateful for has been proven to have a number of benefits for your physical and mental health.
Try interrupting negative thought patterns, or starting the day by listing five things you are grateful for.
5. Seek help.
Finally, don’t try to go through this alone. There are a number of mental health clinicians and practitioners available to guide you through your bad days, weeks and months and get you safely out the other side. So if you need to, make that call.
We live in a fast-paced, high-stress world and sometimes we can hit rock bottom before we even know we’re falling.
Go gently. Proceed with caution and be kind to yourself. There is a way back up.
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