How Are You Expected to Know The Answers, If You Don’t Know the Questions?


How Are You Expected to Know The Answers, If You Don’t Know the Questions?

Finding the right direction in life – be it work, at play or in health – is an existential problem that all of us face at some time or another. More often it is our lack of purpose and not knowing the ‘how’, the ‘why’, and the ‘what’ that holds us back.

According to researcher John Norcross and his colleagues, who published their findings in the Journal of Clinical Psychology, approximately 50% of the population makes resolutions each New Year. The top resolutions are weight loss, exercise, to give up smoking, better money management and debt reduction.

Psychologist Timothy Pychyl believes that resolutions are a form of procrastination, he calls it ‘cultural procrastination’, he believes these declarations are an effort to reinvent and motivate oneself.

In a nutshell, Dr Pychyl maintains that…

“People aren’t really ready to change their habits, particularly bad habits, and this fact alone accounts for the high failure rate.”

Research by author and psychologist Richard Wiseman found that only 52% of resolution-makers were confident that they’d achieve their goals, with barely 12% actually succeeding.  Conversely, is Mr. Wiseman telling us that the other 48% of resolution-makers were not confident that they would achieve their goals? – I’m guessing they are right, and will have a 48%  failure rate, a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Obesity expert Dr Avya Sharma believes that people set unrealistic goals and expectations in their resolutions and lifestyle changes.

Are you on a diet at the moment, or have been recently or ever? Not surprisingly, so are and have been millions of other people worldwide, particularly women. Statistics show that the vast majority of women dieting (a staggering 95%) won’t manage to lose weight and keep it off.

So why might your diet fail, and what can you do to make sure you’re among the successful 5 Percenters?

Also, add to this staggering statistic that a huge majority of these people who have lost weight (the 5 Percenters) will gain weight again. Nearly 65% of dieters return to their pre-dieting weight within three years, according to Gary Foster, Eating Disorders PhD.

You would also notice – despite having the money, having the time, and also their own personal trainers and chefs – that even celebrities can struggle with their weight or fitness regimes.

All of these facts and figures point to one thing: people have trouble finding their purpose, and without it your goals will remain out of reach.

Cultural procrastination, is solved by the Fire Department through defining our purpose. Firefighters delineate their purpose simply through clearly identifying what and where, then the when.

I have been fortunate to train, guide and inspire over a 1000 of our next generation firefighters. Within their teachings I have always spoken of the adage: ‘we always know what is going to happen (incidents that we are likely to turn out to), we know where (as in geographical area), but we never know when’.

So how does this affect you? When it comes to your purpose, you should always manage and prepare for what you do know, rather than what you don’t know. You need to know your why, your what, your where… the when wont matter because you too will be ready to fight your fires.

For your unique Purpose, your unique Destiny – ask yourself…

Do you know your ‘what’, your ‘who’, your ‘where’, and your ‘why’? The ‘when’ will not matter.  Are you ready, and I do mean truly ready, to change your habits, especially the bad ones?

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  • Tyson

    Thanks Dean, you tend to write exactly what I need to hear.

  • dean hawkins

    Tyson, you the man mate, always a good friend – thank you (by the way loved your last)

  • Dean Hawkins

    Taking the opportunity to thank everyone for their likes, acknowledgement and comments – much appreciated guys , Deano

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