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Do You Feel Like an Imposter?
- Are you often afraid that people will discover that you are not who they think you are?
- Do you wear a mask that you hope no-one can see through?
- Are you your own worst critic?
If you answered “Yes” to any of these questions, you probably have a limiting belief that sabotages your progress in some way.
If you learned as a child, which is when we pick up these limiting beliefs, that you were not ‘good enough’, ‘lovable enough’, or that there is ‘something wrong with you’, it is vital that you know those are all misperceptions of who you are.
We form these beliefs in early childhood, in a Theta brainwave pattern. This means that we see, hear or sense what is going on around us and then we put an interpretation on the event in relationship to ourselves. Usually something like, ‘that happened, and it must be because I am not good enough.’
This belief then becomes the ‘poo coloured glasses’ through which we see ourselves in our life experiences.
Unfortunately, that means that we attract more evidence to us that we are not ‘something’ enough, even though it wasn’t true in the first place.
It was just that the circumstances of our life caused us to feel that way. Maybe it was parents who were broken to some degree, and they couldn’t give us what we needed. Perhaps it is an Adverse Childhood Event (ACE) that was so traumatic that we are unable to deal with it.
The result of these poo-coloured glasses.
Is that we attract more and more evidence that the misperception is true. For example, if we feel ‘not lovable enough’ we will attract lovers who are unable to give us the love that we need to feel lovable. If we feel ‘not good enough’ we will continually sabotage our lives and relationships in all sorts of ways as more evidence that the faulty belief is true.
REMEMBER it was never true in the first place.
As we grow up, we find ways to achieve in life, but there is always the fear that someone will discover that we are not who we pretend to be. We will be found out to be an imposter.
There is a way out of the imposter trap.
It is as simple as identifying the traumatic event(s) and clearing the emotion around them.
Once this is done, you can feel differently about yourself. You will be much more confident, much more self-assured. You are now able to be real and vulnerable. People will know that you do what you say and say what you mean.
When you are clear of the trauma and limits of past experiences you are able to love yourself and feel confident in everything that you do.
Once you can be vulnerable and see that you don’t have to be perfect, you just have to be human, the pressure lifts, and you can relax and enjoy life in every area.
Above all, remember that you deserve to be happy!
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