10 Ways to Manage Your Personal Life for a Happier Business
To ensure you can give enough of yourself to your business, you need to get the balance right with your personal life.
When you marry your loved one, or when you commit to being in a relationship together, you do it from a place of hopefulness and belief that it is going to be wonderful. And then life happens! Stressors like finances, children, traumas happen and derail the wonderful journey you thought you were on. Extended family and friends can become over-involved in your relationship. Actually, it is none of their business. It is only the business of you and your partner. Don’t become a statistic.
Here’s what you can do to take care of your relationship which means you will be in a better place emotionally enabling you to give your business the best ‘you’:
1. Don’t expect your partner to make you happy.
If you are expecting your partner to make you happy, I promise you; you are headed for trouble. It is not their job nor are they qualified to do the job. Of course, it is lovely and wonderful if they share in your happiness and you share in theirs’, but do not make them responsible for your happiness. You are the only person who can fulfil this need. You are well qualified for the job. When you take this on as a truth, you will be well on the way to divorce-proofing your relationship.
2. Take complete responsibility for your emotional state.
The only person who can be responsible for your emotional health is you. No-one else can do it effectively and completely. Just imagine how difficult it would be if you are the person expected to make your partner happy! It is way too heavy an expectation on you. It is not even possible for you to do. It puts too much pressure on each of the partners and way too much pressure on the relationship.
3. When something happens that derails your good feeling, take some time on your own to deal with the negative emotion.
When you take time out to take care of your negative emotion, you defuse the situation. You take all the fuel (or most of it) out of the fire. When you have dealt with your own negative emotion about the situation, you can come back and talk to your partner from a calm place. I promise you that they will hear you much more clearly if you do it this way.
4. Let your partner know that is what you are doing so that they don’t feel abandoned.
It is crucial that you let your partner know that you are going out of the situation so that you can deal with your own emotions and that you will be back to talk with them because they, and your relationship, are so important to you. If you do not do this, they may feel abandoned. They may even chase you down, in an attempt to get you to resolve the issue.
5. When you get yourself back into a good feeling place, then you come back to your partner to discuss what has happened so that they know what is going on.
They can’t help or change anything if they don’t know what is going on.
6. Spend some quality time together on a regular basis.
Daily is best, even if it is only for a few minutes so that they feel loved and special to you.
7. Get balance in your life, and in the time, you spend alone and together.
8. Get balance in your life with other areas like family, community, spiritual self, children, health, fitness, etc.
9. Romance your partner.
Treat them as though they are the most important person in your life. Put them before everything else, even the children on some occasions.
10. Your relationship is your most valuable investment.
When things are going well in your relationship, you will find that they are going well in every area of your life, including your business. When things are not going well in your relationship, you will find that everything is a struggle.
“Your relationship is worth the investment. You are worth the investment. Your business’s success is worth the investment!”
Manage your personal relationship well and not only will you be happier personally but your business life will be happier too. Please feel free to get in touch in the comments below if you would like to discuss what you can be doing to improve your relationship.
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