People Only Throw Shade on What Shines
I love to sleep in complete darkness. Blackout curtains are the best and standby lights on the TV are the worst. In a dark room, even the smallest of lights shining from the corner of a room, pierces the perfect darkness and keeps me awake staring at the ceiling that sadly I can still see. My only option is to get rid of those lights. Spare pillows get pushed up against appliances and a blanket covers the TV. I’ll most likely trip over something on the way back to bed but it’s worth it. Now I have darkness. Now I can sleep in peace
When I’m awake, I love light. I love being outside in the warm sun or inside watching a movie. I’m not covering light up with a blanket. However, when I want to sleep, shining light is my enemy. I’ll do whatever I can to get rid of it.
Have you ever felt that your successes are being constantly put in the shade? I have. You work hard and see good results but the minute you start celebrating your success, there’s someone around to pick it apart and tell you what you could have done better. A competitor will tell their customers why your success doesn’t matter and pretty soon that feeling of euphoria is replaced with emptiness and desperation of more. This cycle it never ending and keeps robbing you of the joy of success unless you start to realise something very important.
Recognise the light
Take note when detraction happens and highlight what success they are trying to diminish. Whatever this is, it’s worth celebrating. If someone cares enough to pull it apart or drag it down, it’s a win! Record this success somewhere so you can look back and appreciate the wins in the times where you feel like they’re hard to come by.
Focus on the light
In a dark room, a very small source of light is enough to take away the darkness. If you look at this source of light, it’s easy to forget there ever was darkness. Invest your energy in focussing on the shining success and how you can replicate it.
Bask in the light
Take the time to be happy. Getting big wins can be hard to do so it’s important for us to stop and enjoy them. Ignore any of the noise around you and smile. This about who else was made happy by this success. Did you solve a need of a customer that is now better off because of you? Did you grow your business to a level you didn’t think would ever be possible? Take the afternoon off, go and treat yourself.
Crave more light
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying stick your head in the sand and don’t ever take notice of the detractors. Sometimes these detractors give us incredible ideas on how to improve or evolve to become even bigger and better in the future. The important thing is to evaluate the darkness through a posture of craving more light. Instead of being discouraged, be inspired. Instead of robbing you of happiness, get excited about how you can get another win with what you’ve just learned
Running a business is tough. It’s relentless and it has many ups and downs. Don’t spend all your time in the valleys and miss the view from the peaks. See detractions for what they are; proof you’re doing something right.
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