Andrew and Bree discuss candidly how important it is not to be beating yourself up…
Mums in Business … This One Is for You
Reminder: No one has their ‘stuff’ together.
I saw this as a meme this morning on Facebook and had to share it. For me, at least today, it couldn’t have rung truer. As I sit here writing this, my kids are fighting and not only is my ‘stuff’ not together, if I hear one more scream, my ‘stuff’ will likely hit the fan.
Yesterday afternoon as I was getting ready to disappear into my office and get some work done, my husband, who is also my business partner, threw out his back. It was bad; he spent the evening immobilised and in pain. I spent the evening trying to keep our two young kids away from him and worrying about how I was going to get my work done. Because I’m also a great multitasker, I added in feelings of incredible guilt for feeling annoyed and worrying about work. It wasn’t his fault, or theirs. Days like these are not the norm, but they’re not unusual either.
At any one time, there could be a number of things on the horizon threatening to throw our precariously balanced calendars into a state of complete chaos! Bad backs happen, and so does head lice, usually at the most inconvenient times. Emergency jobs come up, and activities get cancelled or moved around. Whatever it is that gets thrown at us; we always make it work.
Most people that meet me in a work situation think I’ve got my ‘stuff’ together. I’ve been called Wonder Woman, Super Mum and numerous other variations of the two and the most frequently asked question of me is, “How do you do it all?”
But what is ‘it all’?
I’m going to let you in on something. There’s nothing really remarkable about me. I’m just a woman, who years ago made a decision to live the life I wanted, the way I wanted. Some days I make it look easy, but that’s because some days it is. And some days, like yesterday, it’s stressful and guilt-ridden. Some days, like today, I’m a hot mess, and we’re getting through it one hour at a time.
But with all the stress and chaos, we love our life in business. And I think that ultimately comes down to knowing and accepting that you can’t be everything to everyone, nobody can. And living your own life, running your own race.
Being in business is hard. Being in business with a young family is hard. And being in business with my husband as a business partner can on some days be damn near impossible.
To all the mums in business.
So, if I could give you just one piece of advice, it would be this:
“Stop comparing. Stop comparing yourself to the other mums, full stop.”
Stop comparing yourself to other mums in business. Stop comparing yourself to mums at school or on Facebook. Stop comparing yourself to that ultimate ‘business mum’ you’ve created in your head.
Because, underneath we’re all the same and the truth is, none of us really have our ‘stuff’ together.
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